All Your Questions Answered

I told you to ask me anything....and you did!

I was clearly onto something with my MOB WIFE (MOB MOM) author photo shoot. More on the crazy mob wife aesthetic in Sicilian to come.

So we received more than 100 questions to my Ask Me Anything query this week.I’m just gonna answer until I get tired and pick up where I left off.

But first…a couple of fun things this week though. I wrote a piece for Bustle about what we learn about ourselves from our #tradwife scrolls.

Of course it ends up diving into division of labor, gender roles and how we need to eradicate the “mommy wars” between stay at home and work at home moms.

The big thing is what we can learn about ourselves — about our own relationships, our own desires, our own needs — based on how we feel when we mindlessly scroll their homeschooling and barefoot frolicking in fields with their many children.

Many of the women I know who work outside of the home are not happy, or at least not content — a stark contrast to the #tradwives, even if it’s just an act. When I watch a #tradwife reel, the wives seem to know what to do and when to do it. They have rules. The roles in a trad marriage are clearly defined.

It’s the haziness of who’s doing what and when that creates the “exhaustion gap” and so much friction for couples struggling to have a more equal partnership. We live with the unspoken dictum, “We both do it all.” But in reality, there’s no job description in so-called “egalitarian” marriages: It’s the Wild West when everyone’s supposed to be doing all the things.

It’s a good piece and was fun to write. And I talked to the one and only Lex Delarosa for it. :)

So many of you responded to my Instagram and said that I should write a #TradWife murder mystery. I started last night. You ask and I deliver. But first we have to get Sicilian on all the bestseller lists so order early and often!

Ok but more about me.

Some of these questions are truly gonzo and I fucking love you for that. Like this one…

Q. When did you lose your virginity?

A. After my high school prom just like Brenda on 90210.

Q: Where do you write?

A: Everywhere. I was doing an interview about The Sicilian Inheritance the other day where I said all the male writers I know need to be at the perfect desk with their perfect coffee in complete silence to write and I said I write half of my first drafts on my phone on the toilet taking a poop with children banging on the door.

She asked if she could publish that and I said, please do.

Q: What’s the secret to a successful co-writing relationship?

A: Finding a partner who has the same work ethic as you. If you ever feel like someone is not carrying their weight it a relationship becomes toxic.

Also, Google Docs and French Fries.

Q: How many words do you write a day?

A: When I am in novel writing model, 1500.

Q: What’s your craziest celebrity encounter?

A: Ok…I should probably put this one behind the wall….