Was I Ready to Have a Third Baby?

And is it worse to go from two to three?

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Now onto the good stuff.

I get asked this question about having a third baby a lot and I didn’t have an answer until recently when Bonus Baby finally turned one. Now she is walking! It is madness. But I have been able to finally digest all of it because she is finally sleeping through the night. I have been able to get down all my advice for brand new moms, I can start my day without three cups of coffee and I can finally recall the birthdays of everyone in my family. I even finally made the command decision that I won’t let social media tell me how to be a parent!

So was I ready?

The truth is that we are never ready for anything. Life is a surprise, sometimes good, sometimes ridiculous and terrible. This was one of those happy and good surprises.

For a long time I thought I wanted two kids. Three seemed absurd to me. Three might as well have equaled ten. After I had my second baby, when she was real little, I would look at my friends with three kids and think, “you chose to do this? why do you hate yourself so much?”

It wasn’t until my youngest was one and we were in the throes of the pandemic that I got this inkling that I wasn’t exactly finished. I saw the baby turn into a toddler and watched my older son fall in love with her, saw the two of them become best friends and then I started to think….what if there was another one…..