Ask For What You Want Now
Mother's Day Gifts That Don't Suck
Mother’s Day is coming up fast and here’s the truth: no one can read your mind. Tell people what you want.
If we don’t say what we want we’re just setting ourselves up for disappointment and resentment.
When I asked all of you what you really wanted for Mother's Day on this thread, the overwhelming answer was time alone.
Here are some of my faves:
Friday and Saturday at a hotel, by myself. Go home Sunday morning to a nice brunch and a clean house. I'll take any one of those things, ha.
an airbnb with my best friends, and my beautiful family at least 100 miles away from me.
If that’s what you want. Ask for it now. Ask your partner to make it happen. Ask them to plan the kids’ activities, schedule the childcare, book you a spa appointment or a restaurant reservation. Yes, it is annoying to ask for what we want, but that is how we get what we want.
I have stopped having most people in my life get me things (except for Carla who is a perfect gift giver). I have gotten very good at buying exactly what I want for myself when I want it. But some people’s love language is gifting and you need to abide by that (my husband’s is not). So here are some of the things I have mostly bought myself that I adore if you need some inspo for what to ask for.
And remember. You can ask your husband and yours kids to pre-order you the trad wife murder mystery that the Internet cannot stop talking about. EVERYONE IS LYING TO YOU.
THE SHOES I WEAR EVERY DAY - Freda Salvador Eddy D’Orsay Sneaker
I finally just bought a second pair of these because they are so wonderful and I wear them constantly in all seasons. I have green but I just got black.
Rag & Bone Sweatpant "Jeans"
You know how I feel about these bad boys. I also just ordered a second pair of these in a light wash for summer. The other day I trained down to DC to hang with
and we both wore them almost the entire time.
Ana Luisa Double Hoop Earrings
Lightweight. Understated. Chic enough to wear with a dress, lazy enough to throw on with sweatpants.
A Shirt That Goes With Anything
Jenni Kayne Moisture Rich Balm
This little pot of magic is the shortcut to glowing, healthy-looking skin even when you haven't slept. It also smells perfect.
ILIA Multi-Stick
Swipe it on your cheeks, lips, eyelids — you’ll look alive, and no one will know it took under 30 seconds.
Our Place Wonder Oven
An air fryer, toaster, baker, broiler, and roaster — all in one very pretty box.
Quince Mongolian Cashmere Sweater
I have four of these in different colors and with my sweatpant jeans and Freda sneakers they are my daily uniform.
Roma Heirloom Tomato Candle
This candle is so pricey that it is one of the things I ask for as a gift because I am typically a person who is afraid to spend money on an expensive candle even if I love it. Fresh, green, and just weird enough to be interesting.
Katie Kime Oyster Pajamas
Ughhhhhh I love these so much. Nick Aster regularly tells me I have a pajama problem and I tell him my problem is that I will never have enough. These pajamas covered in lemons and oysters are chef’s kiss perfect and I wear them outside in front of other people and feel no shame.
Eberjey Gisele Pajamas
My friend Carla gifted these to all of our girlfriends (monogrammed because she be fancy) for the holidays and I’m obsessed.
A Perfect Striped Shirt
Manta Sound Sleep Mask
I didn’t think this bluetooth sleep mask would work but it does and now I fall asleep every night listening to my favorite weird history podcasts and Nick Aster can’t hear a thing.
Mother’s Day isn’t a test.It’s not a mystery scavenger hunt where your family is supposed to guess what you want based on vibes.
Ask for what you want. (Maybe send this newsletter along with a little subject line: "THIS. THIS IS WHAT I WANT.")
You deserve it. Full stop.
I totally agree with asking for what you really want. I have found, that especially with Mother's Day, I spend so much money in the spring on gardening (my favorite hobby) (like, a lot of money every spring on all the plants and seeds and chickens and this year I made a pond garden) that I told my husband, all my plants are my gifts. Do not even bother with a gift. I'm going to the garden center by myself. That's all I need.
As a retail salesperson, I highly recommend sending links, pics, to your significant other. A man came in today with a list, one item ‘cardholder wallet’ was hard to parse. He ended up going with fragrance, another item on the list. Dream big: there were two serious fine jewelry pieces and concert tickets on the list too!